The Break-Up Blues – How To Get Over An Ex

Break-up. It’s a word that shoots right through our hearts. It’s painful, gut-wrenching and not what any of us want to go through, especially if you still love the other person. Everything feels all topsy-turvy and nothing seems right. The life you’ve known is not there anymore.

What do you do? How do we try to feel at least a little bit “normal” at a time when nothing feels that way? It’s especially painful when you have been together for a long time or have been living under the same roof as the other person.

How To Get Rid Of The Break-Up Blues

When a break-up occurs, you need to try and focus on something else. This may be difficult to do, but it is essential to try and move your mind from the break-up towards something more joyful. Many people who go through a break-up get stuck in the fact that “life is over” and they can’t move on.

Don’t let this happen to you. You need to put yourself in survival mode and tell yourself you will make it through this. Life goes on. It’s a harsh reality and one that needs to be met head on. Do not get stuck in the past, look towards the future.

To make this an easier process, avoid going to any place that will remind you of your ex. Avoid restaurants, parks, anywhere where the two of you used to spend time together. If you have to, even avoiding mutual friends would be a good idea at this point. Friends who are truly friends will understand and can pick up on the relationship at a future date.

Get back into doing the things that you did before you started the relationship. Is there anything that you stopped doing while you were together that you would love to do again?

Guys: Were you active in sports? Do you miss the old softball team? How about the dart tournaments at your favorite hang out? Miss watching the boxing match with your best buddies?

Girls: Do you miss the book club at the local coffee shop? Going to the movies for “girl’s night out”? Spending time at your sewing machine making things for yourself?


Becoming interested in the things that used to make you happy will go a long way in healing the painful feelings you are going through with the break-up. After a little while you could even try and call your old friends and hang out sometime.

Each little step is a step closer to heal. I bet that there will be a time when even seeing your ex face to face will not provoke bitter, angry feelings and instead you will be able to hold your head high and be proud of who you are. The break-up blues will vanish and you will feel like your old self again!