Everything was going along just fine. Just last week you felt like your relationship was moving along nicely and things were ok. All of a sudden, and this is sometimes what happens, your relationship seems to be ending. Your partner announces that they want to break up with you and your world feels like it is falling apart. Don’t despair because there may be some hope for you both and you may want to read on to find out how to get back with your ex.

I am not going to say that this will be an easy thing. You are probably an emotional mess and you will need to take a little time to sort through your feelings. One thing you cannot do is to think irrationally. You must be clear in your thinking and not be stuck on the angery, hurt feelings of being rejected.

To get your emotions in order you will have to cut off all contact with your ex. This is a temporary, necessary step so that the two of you can sort through why the break up happened. You each need to do this on your own before you confront eachother. This means that you do not, and I stress, DO NOT text them, e-mail them, call them, “run into” them or harrass them in any way, shape or form. No contact means just that – No Contact.

While you are apart and alone, take this time to take care of yourself. Even if you feel bad, it is a must for you to get back an emotional and physical wellness. You cannot go back to your ex looking like a hopeless, depressed and angry person. Get out with friends. Take some time to do things for yourself that will make you feel good. Exercising and socializing will be a good start to making you feel good about yourself.

While you are still apart, also take some time to think about why you broke up and what caused the break up? I know you want to feel better and thinking about these things may make you miserable, but you need to do this so that you can figure out why you did not last as a couple. If it was because of someone cheating, why did they cheat? If you argued all the time, why did you argue? You need to get to the root of the problem if you want a better chance at getting back together with your ex.

After you have done these things it will be time to get in touch with your ex again. Let them know what you were thinking about while you were apart and that you want to fix the things that went wrong. Stick to your plan and it will be a step in the right direction towards getting back together with your ex.

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